my shit list

it is well known to those closest to me (including those I am currently estranged from), that i maintain a meticulously curated list of people with whom i am not communicating.

If I ain't talkin' to you, congratulations, you've made it onto my shit list.

It is VERY EASY to get onto my shit list...here's how:

ignore me on purpose;

be rude to me;

invalidate my feelings, especially when i am angry, sad, depressed, etc.;

do something in a passive-aggressive way to hurt me, or inconvenience me in some way;

gossip about me behind my back;

be unusually unreliable or be someone with whom i cannot depend upon;

don't keep your agreement with me; and,

mistreat my life partner, or do any of the above to him.

The good news is that it is also pretty easy to get removed from my shit list.

Here's how:

treat me with RESPECT;

validate my feelings;

listen to me without cutting me off;

be reliable;

tell me when you're upset with me and tell me why you are upset; and,

give me a hug and offer a sincere apology--even if you don't think that you did anything wrong.